I coach ambitious people looking to create something big in their lives. Entrepreneurs and artists in their 20s to 40s are my typical clients. Here are common reasons people come to me as a coach:
- Want to “level up” their work or personal life
- Want to find more meaningful work and make more money
- Feel frustrated in an entrepreneurial venture
- Want to find a way to live and make art
- Want to add a spiritual depth to their life
- Have a general sense of “stuckness”, confusion or lack of fulfillment
Coaching creates exponential progress in your life. It’s a present and future oriented practice that avoids advice or analysis, making it different than most forms of therapy, counseling, or mentorship.
Coaching is different for everyone, but most people have a breakthrough in 2-6 sessions. It’s like acupuncture - sometimes unclear what’s happening, and then something deep shifts.
I conduct sessions on voice, video and in-person, usually weekly but sometimes more frequently. My rate is $150 per session. For motivated people in situations where this is a hardship, arrangements are made.
Interested? Book a free session to see if we’re right to work together.
Here are the frameworks and some complementary practices that make up the foundation of my coaching practice.
Layer 1: Tibetan Buddhism
Buddhist principles as explained by Tibetan Buddhist masters are the cleanest way I’ve seen to describe the nature of reality. For most westerners there’s an air of exoticism that perks up your ears more so than a psychology textbook. But they are still so concisely foundational:
The Four Seals
- All things are impermanent
- All things have no inherent existence
- Emotions (not feelings) are suffering
- Enlightenment (nirvana) is beyond things
The Four Noble Truths
- Life always involves suffering (dukkha)
- The cause of suffering is attachment to the belief that there is separation
- Enlightenment can be attained by eliminating attachment
- There is a way to end suffering
If any of this intrigues you even a tiny bit, consider submitting to master teachers and investigating for yourself. May I suggest What Makes You Not a Buddhist by lama/filmmaker Dzongsar Jamyang Khyentse, a fun and poignant guide.
You could enjoy lifetimes of contemplation here, but for now let’s move on to the next layer: compassion.
Layer 2: Metta Meditation
I’d argue the main thing that popularized Buddhism in the west is the practice of metta, or compassion meditation, especially for the self. I’ve heard teachers call it “pop Buddhism”, “de-contextualized Buddhism”, and “the best condition for awareness”.
The immediate effect that loving kindness practice can have is profound. Stories of metta have opened my heart more times than I can count, and it “gets me to the right answer” faster than anything else.
Metta is not about being nice to yourself or others. It’s a wordless sense of acceptance that grows from Layer 1 understanding - there is no separation, even amongst our enemies and those who have wronged us.
A Path with Heart by Jack Kornfield is my bible for this practice. Be Here Now is a rightful fan favorite in this department. Watching Mr. Rogers, deciding to be free rather than be right, 12-step programs, spending time with the elderly, taking care of an animal, sitting and telling yourself you love and accept every part of yourself for 25 seconds each day - all gonna help here.
Layer 3: Worldly Needs
With an understanding of reality and compassion as the only sensible path, we can frame our worldly needs, transaction and relationships.
Non-Violent Communication is a cohesive organization system. It set all actions and communication as strategies to fulfill basic human needs, of which there are a finite number.
Understanding communication and action as strategies to satisfy needs puts all behavior in a different light. With this perspective, we can hold people in what Carl Rogers called unconditional positive regard. We don’t excuse unskillful strategies to fulfill needs. The being is pure and immortal, the actions are not.
Layer 4: Coaching
Within this system, we sometimes sense we are “stuck” or unfulfilled, that we aren’t meeting our needs skillfully. We’re likely unaware of the strategies we are or aren’t using to fulfill our needs. This is where coaching shines.
Unlike most therapy and counseling, coaching is not focused on understanding the past to live well in the present. And unlike mentorship, it’s not skill-based - it tries to remain as un-opinionated as possible.
Coaching is a method of identifying our needs and developing strategies to meet them. That’s a boring way of saying: envision the deepest and most fulfilling life you can. Now let’s develop it together.
Katonah Yoga: a longevity practice that uses formal geometry, taoism, repetition, and metaphor
Gnostic and Kabbalastic Studies: Historical teachings emphasizing internal (spiritual) knowledge over written and enforced religious authority
Traditional Chinese Medicine: a holistic approach to the body and its energetic linkage
The Essays of Paul Graham: The seminal playbook for value creation in the digital age.
Wordcraft: an approach to learning language and knowledge based on first principles and atomic thought
Are You Interested?
If you want to move forward, book a free 45 minute session to see if we’re right to work together.